2019 New Year Resolutions

I've never really been the type to make new year resolutions until last year when I just felt like I had an overwhelming amount of things I wanted to improve about myself and my life. Since I did a really kick butt job of accomplishing some of my resolutions over the past year, I am inspired to set some for 2019. 

2018 wasn't a super great year in any way other than professionally. I discovered my career path and landed an amazing job this year but didn't really experience anything fulfilling in my personal life. I'm seeing everyone post these amazing year recaps and it has made me reflect on how exciting and memorable my year has been (or rather how unexciting and unmemorable it has been). I then feel sad because I don't have enough pictures, stories or anything to commemorate this past year. I know it's bad to compare myself to other people, but this feeling has inspired me to make 2019 a more exciting one. 

Travel more (even if it's mostly weekend trips)

 I'm really glad I studied abroad in 2017 because it showed me how vital travel and experiencing new places is to creating amazing memories. One possible reason 2018 was so bland is that the only places I went were NYC (where I live), Atlanta (home) and Mississippi (to visit family). Now that I have a looser budget due to having my own income, I really want to use it to travel. I definitely would love to take a bigger weeklong trip at some point in the year, but I also want to utilize holiday long weekends to take short trips. I even just want to take more weekend trips to close by places (like visiting my friend who lives in Saratoga, NY). These ideas don't sound to exciting or extreme, but keep in mind I'm constrained to some extent by my number of PTO days and I would like to keep some of them to just go home and visit my family. 

Maintain a Gym Routine

Yes, yes, I know this is the most notorious new year resolution. I'd like to accomplish this resolution to improve my physique, but also for mental purposes. I need some way to relieve stress, tension and bad energy that I build up throughout the day. Only once before in my life have I established a solid exercise routine. It was the summer of 2016 when I was nannying 9-5, Mon-Fri. I'm pretty sure the key to my success there was that I had a consistent daily routine. While I was still in school, I had the most hectic schedule and every day was different so I don't think it would have been possible for me to create a habit of going to the gym (go ahead and tell me I'm just making excuses). However, now that I have a 9-5 job again, I'm quite confident that I can make this new year resolution work! As soon as I get back to NYC in January to start my full time job, I will be joining a gym (TBD on which one). My obstacle is that I have no idea how to do anything in the gym besides run on the treadmill and use the elliptical. If y'all have any ideas to help with this (besides taking group classes) please let me know!

Limit Phone Time

I'm fairly good about not being on my phone when I'm hanging out with friends, which I'm really happy about. On the other hand, I'm awful about using up the majority of my free time/commuting time scrolling through social media. I could go on and on about the negative effects of social media on one's happiness. However, I know you all have heard the (extremely true and valid) lectures on how social media makes you feel terrible about your own life and completely inadequate, so I'll spare you. It's bad enough that my full-time job and side hustle both revolve around social media. When I use my down time on social media, I'm essentially spending every waking hour of the day looking at content that can be very toxic to the mind. At this point, I don't plan on setting any specific time goals of how long I can be on my phone per day, etc., I just want to make a conscious effort to stop scrolling through social media as much and do other things like work on my blog or watch a movie/TV when I have free time. During my commutes, I would love to start listening to podcast to pass the time, so feel free to send podcast recommendations my way. 

Progress on last year's resolutions

I'm happy to say that I have done SUCH a great job of cooking more often and eating out less. Before 2018, I literally never cooked for myself unless it was pasta. Now, (with the exception of buying lunch during work days) I cook almost every single meal. I'm not saying I'm following complex recipes or creating culinary masterpieces, but I have had fun finding new healthy go-to recipes or even just finding good Trader Joe's frozen meals to heat up when I'm feeling lazy. I genuinely feel like I've saved SO much money from doing this. 

Another resolution that I followed through on fantastically is dressing for myself (read my 2018 resolutions post if you want more of an explanation on this). I don't try to force things and I only buy pieces/wear outfits that I genuinely like. 

The other two resolutions are a bit more abstract and harder to measure. I really do think I've done a better job of prioritizing my relationships and treating them like the most important thing in my life. I think I've been great about showing my friends I care about them and I've been a lot less selfish this year. On the other hand, I've done an awful job of accomplishing the final resolution - not comparing myself to others. This has always been one of my biggest weaknesses and continues to be. I think spending less time on social media this coming year will help immensely.